“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
I’ve shared this quote before and found it again today; it was a necessary reminder for me, and hopefully for you as well. Sometimes stretching our hearts out to others is painful. There are times we give of ourselves and get nothing in return — or we receive negative reactions and consequences.
It’s something I wrestle with; is giving and giving again worth it? To see no acceptance, or mutual love — is it worth pouring out anyways? Even when the negative reaction is foreseen?
Where’s the line between selfless love and self-protection? Is self-protection valid, and if so, when? I’m not sure there’s an easy answer. (If there is, please leave me a comment!) I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s best to err on the side of always giving than being hesitant or refusing. Maybe sometimes it’s best to give little bits, while other times it’s necessary to give all that we can.
Prayer for wisdom is indispensable. We never fully know the other side of the story, how our love given impacts others. When we have the choice in front of us, we might see glimpses — but we don’t know it all.
Loving — it’s what Jesus did best. He gave, and gave again, and gave until He had nothing left. He did it for those who would respond with mutual love and adoration, and He did it knowing others would respond with hatred and refusal. Yet it was still worth it.
Some thoughts to ponder this weekend. Have a great rest of your day. :)